bianca / xvii / girl of the year.

what if i told you i’m incapable

of tolerating my own heart?

interstellartooru

i’m so in love with domestic sweetness.

cooking dinner with the one you love while they wrap their arms around you. taking quick kiss breaks in between folding fresh laundry. washing each other’s hair in the shower. giggling and rolling around in the fresh sheets you both just finished putting on. dusting while showing off your latest dance moves and having your sweetheart show off their vocals.

it’s so comforting to have someone that you just enjoy making a home with. because chores done with someone you love isn’t such a chore after all.

b-bro

im feeling very sad for feminism today… i think where we went wrong was trying to commodify and commercialize feminism with these “girl power” and “the future is female” t shirts which were created by this minimalistic pastel aesthetic and kind of softened what previously was a very anarchist and rebellious movement (see early 90s feminist rock bands which glamorized the opposite of femininity with shaved hair, unshaved pits and legs, no makeup)

and now we have artists like ariana grande, nicki minaj, fifth harmony, daya, etc (this isn’t a callout post for them i don’t care about them as individuals i’m just commenting on a trend in pop culture perpetrated by the music industry) who put out music with feminist sentiments but absolutely no evidence of actively rebelling against societal expectations for women. “i don’t need boys i don’t need to be pretty i don’t need to be sexy” performed in scantily clad clothing with makeup sponsored by perfume and makeup companies is proof that capitalistic pressure has kind of destroyed the rebellious nature of the feminist movement.

so now we have a generation of girls raised on the internet convinced that performing femininity and caking their natural face in makeup in order to conform to unrealistic standards of beauty, placing their worth in their physical appearance inherently by paying money in order to appease some made up standard of what is acceptable for women, and they’ve convinced themselves that this, this conformity of expectation of feminist for women, is inherently feminist?

like it sucks like you guys know feminism is a counteractive movement right? like you know to be feminist is to rebel right? it’s not enough to consume pretty, neat, but wholly hypocritical ideals of feminism. it’s lazy. we have a generation of girls who want to adhere to expectations for women, who want to become that ideal that men have constructed, but now because they “reclaimed” it, that’s feminist?

like no sorry you Can do those things you Can put on makeup and shave and look pretty and girl you Can but don’t pretend that’s feminist it’s literally not. you’re not helping feminism the commodification of feminism is not helpful. men are not upset by you saying “the future is female” when you still look pretty and pink and non-threatening. we aren’t liberated by expectation just because you are now accepting of it. feminism is not complacency.

this post doesn’t apply to the reclaimation of femininity in the context of trans women which is a whole other discussion but generally i think the idea still applies. thanks

b-bro

and like you know what else sucks? the fact that women are going to reply to this saying “SOMEONE doesn’t know how to apply makeup” as if that’s some burn like no i never felt compelled to because makeup clogs your pores which makes you break out which makes it easier for the makeup industry to sell you shit for your skin which wouldn’t be happening if you didn’t put that shit on your face. acne is natural, washing your face is natural, but clogging ur pores that much is not. it’s an industrial decision.

also like women today who love makeup And feminism mocking gnc women sound exactly like men in the 70s who protested feminism on the basis that it makes women “man hating lesbians” so congrats?

die mad about it but makeup and shaving isn’t feminist even if it’s a “personal choice/preference”. it was socially ingrained in you from birth to perform this way so the easiest choice is to accept it but it isn’t feminist.

goldenalec

…y’all are really out here making excuses for penn badgley’s character on “you” (aka a murderer, stalker, psychopath, kidnapper, to name a few characteristics) just because penn badgley is cute and has nice hair and omg poor charming underdog bby joe didn’t WANT to do bad stuff he just really loved beck uwu… fuck outta here lmao good god